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I’m not a fan of feminism of the feminist movement for several reasons. Namely, I find it to be founded on principals that absolve women of accountability, turn us into victims, and vilify men. However, I do recognise that if we truly had a thriving women’s movement, it could work, with some serious tweaking. Here are four things that it could entail.
Accountability
Hold women accountable for bad behaviour, recognise female-on-female callousness, stop blaming the patriarchy and take responsibility, which shows true female empowerment. Encourage and empower women to be responsible for our own choices. This puts women in control of our own lives, and means that we stop viewing ourselves as victims. Feminism is so obsessed with making women hate ourselves and think we’re all ‘oppressed.’ What about teaching women that we can LOVE ourselves, LOVE being women, and that we have personal agency? That being a woman means being someone who is in control of her own destiny?
Celebrating ALL women.
Another key issue within the feminist movement is how ridiculously divided it is. A pro-female women’s movement could bring all sorts of women together. Celebrating women who come from ALL walks of life and empowering personal growth: conservatives, prostitutes, politicians, stay-at-home mothers, poor women, girly women, tomboys, lesbians, etc. This women’s movement becomes universally empowering for ALL women rather than setting standards like shaming women who ‘sexually objectify’ themselves or who choose to vote for non-left-leaning politicians.
This automatically becomes more inclusive, rather than saying that all women must behave and act in a certain way, that you have to be a liberal-voter, businesswoman, pro-abortion, white, etc.
APPRECIATING MEN.
The feminist movement has belittled men so much. Plenty of self-described feminists are not anti-men and do not belittle men. But no one can deny that there have been multiple factions of feminism that HAVE been demeaning and emasculating towards men.
Rather than going on about patriarchy, we should appreciate what men do for women. Providing, protecting, security. Fathers, husbands, boyfriends, friends. Appreciate positive masculine traits and especially chivalry, appreciate men treating women well, opening doors for us, buying us things, carrying heavy stuff. Men and women are meant to work together. The new women’s movement wouldn’t vilify or patronize men and throw words like ‘misogyny’ and ‘toxic masculinity’ around so freely.
Combining this with female accountability would mean that women will recognise their own toxic traits and surrounded themselves with more positive male and female influences and attract positive men.
Finally, embracing femininity.
Men are typically more masculine, women are typically more feminine. Being feminine doesn’t mean you have to wear pink and high-heels. Masculine energy is typically fixed, while feminine energy is free-flowing. Masculine energy is about being steady, firm, and stoic. Feminine energy is intuitive, patient, sensitive, and vulnerable. These are all wonderful qualities that all women possess.
You can be a top lawyer or CEO using masculine energy — drive, determination — in the workplace, but then bring out feminine energy when at home relaxing or with a partner. Every woman’s level of femininity is different, but all women possess strong feminine energy. The key is to harness and draw it out. You can be a tomboy and still harness feminine energy.
Note: in 2023 I created a subreddit called women’s advocates, for people who wish to be pro-women but not pro-Feminism. It’s my hope that 2024 shall see the rise of a new women’s movement that is for ALL women (not just women who are white, wealthy, Jewish, or on the left). I want this women’s movement to empower women and also not put-down men. Feminists have a lot of apologising to do to men over the next few decades for all of the hardships and misandry they have wrought upon them.
